Question

Will we be sad if our children forget about us after we passed on? This was a question asked by Sean last week in one of his emails to us. The question keeps coming back to my mind despite the crazy schedule I had at work and at home in the last few days.

Being the hands-on mum like me, I thought my answer would have been a definite YES! After what I have done for my kids while I am alive, the least they can do is to remember me, right? But no, that was not the immediate answer that came to my mind. I pondered over the question over a few days and concluded that these are what I hope to see if I am watching my kids from heaven ( in descending order of importance)

- kids are happy and healthy ( like what we ask for in our daily prayers)

- kids are able to resume their normal life

- kids to show more respect and love for papa and papa not to spoil them.

- kids to do well in their studies and become useful people to the society

The list goes on and on and it is essentially the same list that I would have put down even when I am alive. I think I will be sad if my kids cannot move on and cries for mummy everyday. Moving on does not mean that they do not love me. It means they feel secure enough to adapt to changes and that they are still well loved by a lot of people besides mummy. I wonder if Michelle agrees with me?